The issue with Bumble is that it relies on 1 gender to make the move, and it's the gender with hundreds of years of programming to not do so. I used it for a while when it was relatively new, I got a decent number of matches from it, and I watched almost all of those matches time out in complete helplessness as the app didn't permit me to do anything about them.
In painting women as the sole victim of the creeping evil of dating apps it was able to sell a feminist ideal, but it's not exactly a winning business strategy to intentionally limit activity for half the user base.
The basic problem of modern love are dating apps, and the dynamic they create. It’s kind of tiring to repeat, but women are far more picky than men, and even men are picky on apps, and so everyone is shooting for people above their own value.
Women and men also peak in value at far different ages. Women are most attractive in their 20s and 30s, men are most attractive in their 30s and 40s. If you argue this point, you’re a moron—and everyone should remember that no one is going to socially re-engineer hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary biology by arguing on the internet.
The final problem is that people don’t know how to be social, and many are adopting antisocial behavior.
“We’re searching for a life that allows us to prioritize ourselves, our careers, our bank accounts and the idea of a perfect true love all at once. And if we do the math on that, it probably won’t add up” – just so good and well observed as always thank you!
Funny, because one of the analogies I make for why I quit dating apps is that it’s become an unsolvable math problem. And a market of lemons. https://getbettersoon.substack.com/p/people-arent-products-turning-of
Keep in mind that what humans say they want and what they actually want are not always the same.
The issue with Bumble is that it relies on 1 gender to make the move, and it's the gender with hundreds of years of programming to not do so. I used it for a while when it was relatively new, I got a decent number of matches from it, and I watched almost all of those matches time out in complete helplessness as the app didn't permit me to do anything about them.
In painting women as the sole victim of the creeping evil of dating apps it was able to sell a feminist ideal, but it's not exactly a winning business strategy to intentionally limit activity for half the user base.
The basic problem of modern love are dating apps, and the dynamic they create. It’s kind of tiring to repeat, but women are far more picky than men, and even men are picky on apps, and so everyone is shooting for people above their own value.
Women and men also peak in value at far different ages. Women are most attractive in their 20s and 30s, men are most attractive in their 30s and 40s. If you argue this point, you’re a moron—and everyone should remember that no one is going to socially re-engineer hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary biology by arguing on the internet.
The final problem is that people don’t know how to be social, and many are adopting antisocial behavior.
Silver lining: if you don’t do this stupid shit, it’s very easy to win. https://getbettersoon.substack.com/p/pickiness-how-men-and-women-miss
"I respect reality television as a medium" - you don't have to!
“We’re searching for a life that allows us to prioritize ourselves, our careers, our bank accounts and the idea of a perfect true love all at once. And if we do the math on that, it probably won’t add up” – just so good and well observed as always thank you!