Underlying all this is the belief that men are worse than women, and that they could be better if they were more like women. Men are immature, irresponsible, emotionally unavailable, unhygienic. Really, why would anyone want one? This view has become completely mainstream.
Well, to men, women are un-fun, nagging, neurotic, needy, and fussy. But we want them anyway. Women are terrible at dealing with spiders, but that doesn't make men think they're better than women overall.
One thing about that Coldplay incident: there's a woman that got caught too.
This is such a disingenuous statement, all straight women I know are fun, silly and would love to be the less fussy one in a relationship. They just have to misfortune to date men who through societal conditioning refuse to pick up any of the mental and emotional labour. The world would be a much better place if young boys instead of being told ew don't be like a girl, don't cry, don't be soft and were instead praised for their thoughtfulness, their ability to anticipate someone else's needs just like girls are forced to do. The reason the mainstream view of men are doing worse is because the empirical data to show they are worse off, they are achieving less academically, they are more lonely and this is all while benefiting from the patriarchal system which makes it easier for them to earn more, get jobs, be believed etc etc. Maybe instead of dismissing women as nagging or neurotic you should take a cold hard look at yourself and think maybe the problem here is not that women need too much or fuss too much but that you are simply not showing up enough.
Yes, you have to allow dating to be messy or else many guys will get Aziz Ansari'd, but without a public forum to provide a defense. It's even worse than Yelp. How long before they get sued?
I can imagine a guy reading the NYT piece and all the other "men are bad" writing out there, throwing up his hands, and saying, "Fine, forget it!" Plenty of entertainment out there to fill your time with, and we're not the ones with the biological clock ticking.
Underlying all this is the belief that men are worse than women, and that they could be better if they were more like women. Men are immature, irresponsible, emotionally unavailable, unhygienic. Really, why would anyone want one? This view has become completely mainstream.
Well, to men, women are un-fun, nagging, neurotic, needy, and fussy. But we want them anyway. Women are terrible at dealing with spiders, but that doesn't make men think they're better than women overall.
One thing about that Coldplay incident: there's a woman that got caught too.
This is such a disingenuous statement, all straight women I know are fun, silly and would love to be the less fussy one in a relationship. They just have to misfortune to date men who through societal conditioning refuse to pick up any of the mental and emotional labour. The world would be a much better place if young boys instead of being told ew don't be like a girl, don't cry, don't be soft and were instead praised for their thoughtfulness, their ability to anticipate someone else's needs just like girls are forced to do. The reason the mainstream view of men are doing worse is because the empirical data to show they are worse off, they are achieving less academically, they are more lonely and this is all while benefiting from the patriarchal system which makes it easier for them to earn more, get jobs, be believed etc etc. Maybe instead of dismissing women as nagging or neurotic you should take a cold hard look at yourself and think maybe the problem here is not that women need too much or fuss too much but that you are simply not showing up enough.
I... Think the owners of Tea are getting sued either way at this point.
https://x.com/ZTobias114838/status/1948781407859323395
Yes, you have to allow dating to be messy or else many guys will get Aziz Ansari'd, but without a public forum to provide a defense. It's even worse than Yelp. How long before they get sued?
I can imagine a guy reading the NYT piece and all the other "men are bad" writing out there, throwing up his hands, and saying, "Fine, forget it!" Plenty of entertainment out there to fill your time with, and we're not the ones with the biological clock ticking.